20 October, 2009

"My high school friend mentioned me in his Facebook update!" I bragged. 18/10/09

Then I read it more closely. "But...he asked me about pork on Mexican restaurant menus. I wonder why."

I thought Karl was going to reply, "Maybe because you love cooking." But instead he declared, "Well, maybe because for most of your friends from the rez you're the closest thing they've got to 'Ask a Mexican'."

1253157942_3e17532281 I may be the "closest thing, but I'm a pretty far cry..."

At least I looked like a grown-up. 08/10/09

The cashier at 7-11 in Elk Grove looked down her nose at my purchase. "Don't you want a drink or some chips or a sandwich to go with that?" I just shook my head and said, "Not this time." I wanted to rant and rave and then burst into tears but it wasn't her fault that:
I was scrounging though a wonderfully kitschy yet minuscule coin purse to come up with 86¢ so I could pay for the overpriced banana that, at 13:26, would be the first thing I'd put in my mouth today other than coffee because I'd not only forgotten my whole wallet at home, but also the $10 bill that Karl had left for me on the desk in the kitchen this morning was in my school bag that I left in my office (which I probably don't even deserve to have because my writing's so bad, but that's a whole 'nother rant) before hitting the road where, on auto-pilot, I took the 5 and ended up all the way in Elk Grove before stopping for banana at said 7-11, then turning around to get back to 50 so I could exit onto 99 at high speeds (but speeds not high enough to be pulled over and cited for driving without a license) to avoid being late pick up my dad after his cataract surgery and I couldn't even call to say I might be late because my phone battery was dead, but fortunately I wasn't that late after all; I arrived just before they wheeled him out the door and despite his post-surgery state, I had to regress to childhood and ask him for lunch money!

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"Now that you've had a few days to celebrate, let's have that talk. Step into my office." 07/10/09

One of my unofficial mentors was the first person not on my committee to congratulate me on passing my qualifying exams. Like me, she's almost always in the building, but she seemed especially present on the 7th floor last Wednesday. Before my exams she kept telling me not to worry and that the exam (especially the oral) was just a formality. But I did worry. I didn't want to be the first person to ever flunk a formality! I think I've mentioned before that this woman has had my back since the Fall Welcome meeting my first year here. She has never steered me wrong and it's her voice that supplies the logic and reason for my interior monologues, dialogs or conversations.

She encouraged me to think about the images I wanted to project of myself as I move through this new stage in my career. I responded, "Well, technically, not yet...I don't have the Ph.D, so I actually don't have to start acting and looking more professorial."

"Point taken, Valerie. But you could at least start comporting yourself more like a lecturer."

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Biggest challenge... 29/09/09

...exam itself or resisting urge to chain-eat handfuls of Reduced Fat Cheez-Its for 30 continuous miles en route to said exam?

These nerves are getting on my nerves! 28/09/09

Trying to focus and trying to stay careful, but the stress finds lots of ways to come out.

Last month I kept breaking glasses. This time around I've broken the knob on the washing machine. You can still "pull to start" but the threads on the bolt will kind of tear up your skin until you get used to it. I also broke a plate.

But the way in which the test anxiety seems to be most manifest is in self-injury. Not on purpose! At least I hope not. A few weeks ago I burned my forearm in an amateurish hot oil accident. I overstretched my knee last night. Today I scalded other side of same forearm with hot coffee from an urn at Cargo Coffee. For some reason I had part of my arm flush against the little spigot thingy while I was putting the lid on my cup and it activated and hot liquid just slowly seeped out until I felt the scald. The coffee's never that piping hot when I just drink it!

Oh, and I've been losing keys. Today's loss occurred during said coffee scald.

My other injury occurred while I was talking to my dad, trying to convince him that he didn't lose his cell phone as "punishment for his sin" (transgressing Jewish law by going out to lunch on Yom Kippur).* As punishment for my sin (multi-tasking during said phone call instead of listening attentively like dutiful daughter), I got soap in my eye over an hour ago and it still hurts. Playing fetch with Kayla was one of the multiple tasks I was performing instead of being all ears. The soap dispenser misfired in my attempt to wash my hands of dog slobber.

I'm scared again. Oral exams Wednesday.

* ¿¿¿And I wonder why I am the way I am???

Walking the walk? Not quite. 24/09/09

I didn't teach. And I think I wish I had. Having come quite close to strike in my first years of teaching, it was hard to suspend my criticism of the plan for a system-wide walkout today, the first day of classes for 8 of the 10 campuses. It seemed that there weren't enough steps...a walkout should be a last resort. I keep thinking of the students who are new to UC Davis. My 11:00 might have been the first college class for some of them. I hope I can make it up to any of them who feel cheated, ignored, denied.

I chose not to teach today because I wanted to support staff and faculty who had decided to walk out. Even as I was deciding, I felt that I didn't have a choice, but I knew I'd show solidarity because I love my professors. It felt morally right, even as it felt nothing like social justice. It felt morally right, even though I didn't think a walkout on the first day of classes would serve a purpose. And it's too early for something like that.

But since so many, especially faculty, had decided to take such a drastic measure, I felt I had to take it seriously and act according to what I'd been taught and experienced re: labor strife...like nurses and doctors do when a patient comes to the emergency room, but isn't really in a state of emergency. It's like I took some sort of oath.

I came to campus and left my keys to Sproul in the car so I wouldn't be tempted to cross any picket lines, even to use the bathroom. But I didn't see any. In fact, there weren't many people at the rally at all. The people I'd wanted to support didn't appear to need it, and after all that, so many classes did meet. But a lot of TAs didn't teach. Or come to campus. When people asked me why I was driving all the way to Davis since I wasn't teaching, I just said that I wanted to support staff and faculty. I was afraid of sounding smug or something, so I left off the part about how I take work kind of seriously and if I wasn't going to show up to teach today that my absence could only be justified by my attending the rally, at the very least.

Within 5-10 minutes of the speeches, I became disheartened. The crowd was so sparse. The main issues weren't broached until quite late. There were some impassioned speeches, some inappropriate, extra-topical speeches, and some just plain lame speeches. But it was the lack of attendees that was the most discouraging. I greeted only one professor, but was too shy to talk to him, as he'd recently agreed to substitute on my oral exam next week. I saw my advisor from a distance. He may have seen me, but he left the scene pretty quickly. They were the only two from my department that I saw. I only saw 6 other Spanish TAs. And that's fine...I will never alter my opinions of my colleagues based on their choices today. But such poor attendence perhaps reflects that most people were smarter than I and realized that this event was not going to be effective and their time would be better spend doing what teachers and students were supposed to do - go to class. So why did I take it so seriously? It's my own fault, I suppose, I didn't talk to any professors or many other TAs about their plans for the day...

Perhaps things were different on other UC campuses. And I know that some grad (from other departments) were heartened by what they saw. I couldn't help but feel quite the opposite. But perhaps I'm cynical and negative.

"I don't care whose car we take, but you drive." 22/09/09

2009 Subaru Impreza Wagon WRX

If we meet somewhere to go somewhere else together and if you ask "Who's driving?", I'll most likely prefer to be the passenger whether the car is mine or yours. If it's mine (and I always make it clear that it can be), I'll hand you the keys. I would say, have said, and maybe even thought that it's because I don't like to drive. But that's not entirely true. I don't really like driving if there's someone in the car with me.

Unlike most people where I grew up, I didn't learn how to drive when I was 11. I could operate a vehicle when I was 15, but I wasn't a very smooth or even confident driver (fulfilled prophecy of self and others). I didn't get my license until I was almost 18. I think my younger brother got his license before I did. He's also the one who finally succeeded in teaching me to drive stick. I also like to be the passenger so that I can listen to you more attentively if we're talking and so I can better see how it is out the window if we're not.

However, I did have what might have been a secret...

If I'm alone I like driving. A lot. Almost any car and almost anywhere. And I have become a fairly competent driver. It's not such a secret that I drive too fast, and I think I do that because I like to see and feel what the car can do and I like to feel the road. I'd often wished I were I driving something that could "keep up" - not necessarily with me or my cat-like reflexes, but with what I wanted to do.

The new Subaru more than surpasses me and I still don't feel like I can keep up with it. I think it's the most powerful car I've driven. I know there are cars wayway more powerful on the road with me every day, but the WRX is a lot for me. It has a 2.5L DOHC intercooled turbo engine. Out of all of those words, the only one I sort of understand is "turbo", and even then only minimally. It's the thing that makes the sound and that puts you back up against seat when you accelerate. The little station wagon is dark grey and other than the hood scoop, it's pretty non-assuming. Not as fierce as the black, it still gets attention from tuner car drivers and others of the cognoscenti. Sometimes those dudes look at the driver and if that's me, I want to explain, "Yes, I know what I have, I just don't quite know what to do with it yet."

I've driven it quite a lot, but haven't quite bonded with it yet. Putting the special iPod hook-up helped make it feel more like mine, but the way the short-throw shifter moves hasn't quite become they way I move. Its suspension and other performance aspects also require some adjustments in movement and perception. For example, the RPM dial (rather than the speedometer) is in the center of the display, but I'm trying to continue to rely more on sound and feel rather than on numbers to tell me when to shift. Getting up to speeds is no problem, tempering it in town is taking some work. But on what passes for open road here, it's an absolute pleasure to drive. It's not really like one of those comfy cars that creep to 90mph without the driver realizing. I can feel and see and hear it go faster.

And I can feel the road under the tires. I've always preferred that, to feel the car interact and connect with the road and then I connect with both. Since moving to California I've often craved driving on the type of long, straight roads that traverse Eastern Montana, the ones where you don't see another car for miles or hours. When I drive the Subaru, though, I crave more curves. A few weeks ago, I found a good one upon exiting Highway 4 to take Cummings Skyway or maybe it's the other way around ... (I'd never make it as one of those mystery writers who sprinkle their text with landmarks and street/road names to give it local legitimacy!) I took the corner about 15 mph over the posted limit and the car didn't complain at all. And it let me keep up.

Welcome home. 20/09/09

MiCasaEsLaTuya

It asked, "Weblog Tools Collection: Are You Responsible Enough To Run WordPress?" 17/09/09

I don't know. Maybe. I think so. Probably. Possibly.
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Contrary to popular belief (that is, if I were popular), I don't do that well with change. 15/09/09

Leading off with "Contrary to that which past and present behaviors suggest..." might have been more apt than "popular" - that word has such a charge that it deserves its own blog post.

The word "blog" has also become kind of loaded for me, but only because I've been so neglectful about writing this one. It is, however, the changes to this blog that have prompted this post, and hopefully some future meta-blogging, in keeping with my (no-longer-so-) secret wish to have a real blog with real themes.

The change to this blog is one that my reader probably can't see. I felt like blogging on Friday night so I came here. OK, so maybe I didn't feel like blogging. I just updated my Dear Diary pages, which should no longer appear on the blog (not because they're secret or anything, they're just boring). The notice: "WordPress 2.8.4 is now available. Please update." was still there and I thought that I should try again. I like putting images in my posts and that was getting hard to do. I wanted to make blogging as easy as I could, thinking that it would motivate me to get back to it.

There was no way I was going to attempt to update myself using SimpleScripts so I called BlueHost's tech support, hoping to get Karl again. Barbara wasn't as warm and fuzzy, but she talked me though it, explaining that I had to deactivate themes and plugins and such. Somehow in the process I again lost the blog. Of course, I immediately read that as a metaphor/warning that I should stop blogging for the obvious reasons.

Ever since I started writing String of Lights just over 2 years ago, I struggle to refute my own arguments against (my own) blogging. They are the same reasons given to me by people who I think should have a blog. Enumerating them here would be pointless at best, those insecurites come out in what I write as a matter of course and at worst, enumerating them could be insulting or hurtful. When I refute myself I do it in a sharply self-deprecating manner and would never use that against anyone else who made the selfsame argument.

On Friday night (technically Saturday morning by then), despite all the indications that I should just give up the blog, I called Barbara again and asked her to put it back. And she did. Actually, she did more than that. She made sure the update works and I'm now running the version 2.8.4. And it looks different from here - the admin controls are on the left side, not on the top; the frame is a different blue; I can more easily access the images and links I've posted over the years and I think it makes more sense. I just need time to get used it.

Its newness, perhaps, can represent a new start for me at this blog. I don't plan to change it drastically. I don't plan to change it at all. It's not all of sudden going to consistently have certain themes. Inconsistency is key here. The writing's not going to get any better. Readership won't increase. The content will continue to have limited significance.

But I get to have it back. This Spring/Summer took something out of me or took me away from something or somethings. I think String of Lights was one of them. I want it to come back.

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These were the two most thoughtful souvenirs he could have found... 10/09/09







...even though one of them really isn't even for me at all.

I bought running shoes today. 07/09/09

I had just bought some in June, but they weren't the same kind I'd been running on. They were almost $40.00 cheaper. I decided to keep them even though they didn't feel quite right, my ankles didn't feel stable. Over the weeks my achilles tendons started hurting and my knee won't heal.

On Thursday I got a massage. When she got near my feet Cindy said, "That's odd." She went on to explain that my ankles had something going on, that it felt like they were trying to protect themselves. I almost started crying then and sort of feel like it now.

But yesterday I ran in the oldold shoes and things hurt less. So I went to buy the same model today. It's a start.

I'm prone to late onset of jetlag. 03/09/09

When I've gone across the ocean or Mexico, sometimes the jet lag takes a few days to catch up. I've stayed awake for up to three days straight, especially when leading student groups. In Madrid my traveling companions would collapse in their hotel rooms shortly after arriving. They all fell asleep immediately. I've tried to do likewise, but never have been able to. I usually go to the ATM, have a café cortado or vino y tapas and try to find the nearest bookstore. If I have time I go to the museo to go look at Picasso's Guernika again. I've determined which Metro lines go to the key places: the big Corte Inglés and FNAC. This elevates me to intrepid know-it-all tourist tour guide for friends and family who finally wake up, hungry and needing money, caffeine and a ciber-café. Four days later while they're avidly shopping, taking pictures, or learning about some important piece of history, culture, geography or politics, I'm slogging behind, eyes half-closed and dragging my feet. With a voice that sounds like Tom Waits and that fails to articulate in either language I apologize and explain, "No, I can't walk any faster right now. I'm not doing this on purpose."

Everyone told me that after my written exams all I'd be capable of was sitting on the couch and staring at Stella or maybe looking at pretty colors on a TV screen. I did both of those things on Tuesday afternoon. The TV program was a National Geographic special - Dogs in the Womb!* But I was pretty alert and awake up until about 10:00 yesterday morning. I stumbled and mumbled around Davis, not registering the 105 degree heat. I met two new people who I'd actually like to meet up with and talk with again. So even though I hadn't left my own timezone, I found myself explaining that I'd just taken my written qualifying exams and that it was just now catching up.

As for how those written qualifying exams went? I feel pretty unqualified.

* Watching the program just validated that I'm not mommy material. Or that I'm part dog. I realized that every time I've looked at a pregnant friend's ultrasound image, after a minute or so of trying to locate the baby, I've had to finally just pretend, "Oh, yeah, there's the little hand!" However, one of the pregnant canine subjects from Dogs in the Womb was a chihuahua on whom the scientists performed an ultrasound. I was immediately able to see the diminutive doggies on the ultrasound image with no problem whatsoever, discerning little paws and the beginnings a tail.

Bulb out...worried about exam. 27/08/09

Not quite the duradera dicotomía colonial, pero interesante. 25/08/09

Andrea Palma interprete a Rosario en La mujer del puerto (dir. Arcady Boytler, 1934). Rosario es una de las prostitutas protagónicas del cine y de la narrativa mexicana de nombre que evoca la oración, la santidad, la iglesia católica junta con Santa y Mercedes de Santa (novela 1903 y primera película mexicana sonora, 1931) y Salón México (1949), respectivamente. Andrea Palma plays Rosario in director Arcady Boytler's 1934 Woman of the Port. Rosario is one of the protagonic prostitutes of the Mexican narrative and cinema whose name evokes prayer, saintliness, the Catholic Church, as do Santa and Mercedes ("mercies") in Santa (1903, novela and in 1931 the first "talkie" produced in Mexico) and in Salón México (1949), respectively.

El próximo año, en su próxima película, Palma toma un papel no exactamente contrario ni contradictorio, sino uno que es una especie de contraste; no es un cambio de 180, pero quizás de 160. La película es Sor Juana Ines de la Cruz. The next year, in her very next film, Palma plays a not quite contrary nor contradictory role, but it's certainly a sort of contrast; it's a 180 turn, but perhaps a 160. The film, Sister Juana Ines de la Cruz.


They say you should bring a picture of the haircut you want when you go the salon. 19/08/09

"So, what are we doing with this hair today?" she'll ask. I'll explain, "Well, school's starting soon, so I guess it should look like I planned it. But I really don't want it to be all conformist and hegemonic." She won't even roll her eyes. "OK...so just the usual trim and yet another futile lesson in how to use the round styling brush you still haven't bought, right?" "¡Sí, perfecto!"

I think it's not done giving. 18/08/09

He'd kill me if he knew I haven't opened this book yet.

(the page this links to should appear below this post if you click on "this book", above)

Maybe I could have used it to write something. Actually, maybe not. I don't think I've written on the novel since I found the book, wrapped in its bag from Librerías Gandhi, in my mailbox at school on a day I most needed something like it.



It's still wrapped. I wanted to wait to open it until. I'm not sure until what. So, I'm going to open it now.

I didn't open it yet. I had to clean my desk off. Make the right atmosphere, a tranquil one.

Now I'm going to.

The tape's been on so long it won't easily peel off. I'll slit it with scissors. I don't want to slice the bag.

I sliced it a little.

Now that I've taken it out of the bag, I find I don't want to remove the plastic cover that protects books sold in Spanish-speaking countries. I'll just first read the back cover's description through the transparent plastic.

Its first sentence, in my clumsy translation: Like a chorus of multiple voices that simulate waves and hurl words over the blank page, or like a long series of thoughts that become confused in mental waters and are sighs, language, reflections, so are the chapters of this book, which intend to figure out what is a novel, what it should be or what it isn't.

It wouldn't really have worked for anything I've written, other than for, perhaps, a surprising phrase or two in an unexpected tone. It won't really help on my written exams, on which I won't be defining literary genres or classifying the works I'm studying by them. I might have to argue why Bernal Díaz's crónica can be read as a novel, but perhaps other sources might be more apt than this simply because they are on the list. And I need to keep my focus there.

I think I'll wait to unwrap the next layer for another couple of weeks.

First song on Pandora...today. "Cucurrucucu, Paloma" ... 16/08/09

Why do I bother? Someone else has already said it. Much earlier and much better. 14/08/09

As I read or re-read critical, um, critical works it's easy to despair that I'll never have an original thought about any of this.

Strongest Woman Award 1 13/08/09

Years ago, my friend Paula, an artist who works in mixed media did a series in, um, some kind of plaster or clay called "The Strongest Woman You Know". And the works all contained the phrase "I am the strongest woman you know." I think that the idea was that everyone could be a strong woman, even people who aren't women. I know so many of them (starting with the artist herself) that I don't even know how to list them in a way that's fair. So I won't list them. I'll just let an interaction with one or more of them suggest a post stealing Paula's phrase.

Today's Strongest Woman is a woman, though. She's Leo the receptionist at All Creatures Veterinary Clinic. She never loses patience when the phone won't stop ringing and the waiting room is full of animals barking, hissing, whining, squawking or bitching about the doctor's fees. The best part about that patience is that while always professional and polite, she doesn't ever act fakey-happy, so when she smiles I know it's genuine happiness or amusement.

Today I think she had to see more animals than usual go into the consult room and not come back out. She can inform the doctor seriously, but unsentimentally, that "Yes, they're here, but you'll need the stretcher." But yes, I can see that it affects her. She also today had to deal with a nosy Woman With a Chihuahua (capital letters Karl's inflection) who naturally referred to herself as "mommy" and who was afraid to walk her dog down the Vallejo street while carrying her purse. Leo didn't say no when the WWaCh asked to leave the purse behind her desk, but she didn't say yes either.

I think she likes all dogs, but some more than others, you can tell by the reception they get if they go around behind her desk. Paloma used to hang out back there. I feel fortunate that my dogs seem to be on the good list. Today Stella jumped up on the bench beside me during our wait, then crawled over me so she could better gaze at Leo over her computer monitor and listen in to her phone conversation. The WWaCh tsked. I said, "If another person comes in I'll make her get down." Leo waved her hand and said "pshhht. Stella can stay there as long as she wants to."

2. Altamirano, Ignacio. Clemencia (1869), El Zarco (1901). 12/08/09



Clemencia and El Zarco are some of those "foundational fictions" of Latin American literature. In the first quite a bit more than the latter it is easy to see the role in nation-building that literature played in the emancipated Americas, especially the novel, also called the romance. The word "romance" in this case can be read in two other ways; we can consider novels like the above as love stories and we can also see them as examples of or containing traces of romanticismo, the literary movement. All of those connotations apply in these works of literature whose aim is to diffuse the message "go forth and multiply" in a way that conforms to the hegemony of the newly independent countries. In these novels, we can read, as Sommer does, in Foundational Fictions, an erotics of politics. Or a politics of erotics. Romance or love was exalted in the images of these heterosexual unions (assumed to be eventually (re)productive), usually between characters of different regions, races, colors and class. A private microcosm of the epoch's ideal public citizenry.

1. "Sátira filosófica", o Las mujeres también podemos ser hombres necios.11/08/09

I reproduce here Sor Juana's most well-known poem and below, its English translation. Of course, it's on my reading list. In fact, it has pride of place as the first work on the list and this poet is exempt from alphabetization. I was too lazy just now to dig out the printed text of the poem so I thought I'd read it online. I found this site and I think that the translator, in choosing the adjective "silly", is a bit too easy on Sor Juana's intended audience. Other than that, it's actually an excellent translation! I wish I could find who did it, so I could credit her/him. The translation captures quite well the astute nun's ironic tone. Very little has changed since the siglo XVI in the sexual dynamic, though I think if it were to be written today, and a bit more honestly, the good sister couldn't really exempt a good many women from fitting into the category of necios. We can be just as hard on each other. But then, that too could be men's fault. Come to think of it, Jimmy Buffett recognizes this, in "Margaritaville" - one less hombre necio, then.

Hombres necios que acusáis
a la mujer sin razón,
sin ver que sois la ocasión
de lo mismo que culpáis:


si con ansia sin igual
solicitáis su desdén,
¿por qué quereis que obren bien
si las incitáis al mal?


Combatís su resistencia
y luego, con gravedad,
decís que fue liviandad
lo que hizo la diligencia.


Parecer quiere el denuedo
de vuestro parecer loco,
al niño que pone el coco
y luego le tiene miedo.


Queréis, con presunción necia,
hallar a la que buscáis,
para pretendida, Thais,
y en la posesión, Lucrecia


¿Qué humor puede ser más raro
que el que, falto de consejo,
el mismo empaña el espejo
y siente que no esté claro?


Con el favor y el desdén
tenéis condición igual,
quejándoos, si os tratan mal,
burlándoos, si os quieren bien.


Opinión, ninguna gana:
pues la que más se recata,
si no os admite, es ingrata,
y si os admite, es liviana


Siempre tan necios andáis
que, con desigual nivel,
a una culpáis por crüel
y a otra por fácil culpáis.


¿Pues cómo ha de estar templada
la que vuestro amor pretende,
si la que es ingrata, ofende,
y la que es fácil, enfada?


Mas, entre el enfado y pena
que vuestro gusto refiere,
bien haya la que no os quiere
y quejaos en hora buena.


Dan vuestras amantes penas
a sus libertades alas,
y después de hacerlas malas
las queréis hallar muy buenas.


¿Cuál mayor culpa ha tenido
en una pasión errada:
la que cae de rogada
o el que ruega de caído?


¿O cuál es más de culpar,
aunque cualquiera mal haga:
la que peca por la paga
o el que paga por pecar?


Pues ¿para quée os espantáis
de la culpa que tenéis?
Queredlas cual las hacéis
o hacedlas cual las buscáis.


Dejad de solicitar,
y después, con más razón,
acusaréis la afición
de la que os fuere a rogar.


Bien con muchas armas fundo
que lidia vuestra arrogancia,
pues en promesa e instancia
juntáis diablo, carne y mundo.




Silly, you men-so very adept
at wrongly faulting womankind,
not seeing you're alone to blame
for faults you plant in woman's mind.

After you've won by urgent plea
the right to tarnish her good name,
you still expect her to behave—
you, that coaxed her into shame.

You batter her resistance down
and then, all righteousness, proclaim
that feminine frivolity,
not your persistence, is to blame.

When it comes to bravely posturing,
your witlessness must take the prize:
you're the child that makes a bogeyman,
and then recoils in fear and cries.

Presumptuous beyond belief,
you'd have the woman you pursue
be Thais when you're courting her,
Lucretia once she falls to you.

For plain default of common sense,
could any action be so queer
as oneself to cloud the mirror,
then complain that it's not clear?

Whether you're favored or disdained,
nothing can leave you satisfied.
You whimper if you're turned away,
you sneer if you've been gratified.

With you, no woman can hope to score;
whichever way, she's bound to lose;
spurning you, she's ungrateful—
succumbing, you call her lewd.

Your folly is always the same:
you apply a single rule
to the one you accuse of looseness
and the one you brand as cruel.

What happy mean could there be
for the woman who catches your eye,
if, unresponsive, she offends,
yet whose complaisance you decry?

Still, whether it's torment or anger—
and both ways you've yourselves to blame—
God bless the woman who won't have you,
no matter how loud you complain.

It's your persistent entreaties
that change her from timid to bold.
Having made her thereby naughty,
you would have her good as gold.

So where does the greater guilt lie
for a passion that should not be:
with the man who pleads out of baseness
or the woman debased by his plea?

Or which is more to be blamed—
though both will have cause for chagrin:
the woman who sins for money
or the man who pays money to sin?

So why are you men all so stunned
at the thought you're all guilty alike?
Either like them for what you've made them
or make of them what you can like.

If you'd give up pursuing them,
you'd discover, without a doubt,
you've a stronger case to make
against those who seek you out.

I well know what powerful arms
you wield in pressing for evil:
your arrogance is allied
with the world, the flesh, and the devil!

I don't think it's so cute anymore. Not a bit. 10/08/09

This photo of a clever little design for Illy coffee cups was on a website called A Bit of Cute.



Maybe I'm just bitter, but I don't think this cup and saucer is really that cute. I would know. I used to collect them. And besides (and more to the point), there are tons of living moving fucking hormigas in my kitchen and they're not arranging themselves as aesthetically on cups and saucers nor on any of the surfaces.

I came downstairs this morning at the urging of the dogs. I'd slept about 20 minutes later than usual, and I could tell Kayla was hungry. She trotted down to the kitchen beside me, wagging her disproportionately short tail and looking up at me all happy. I like that part of the morning. Stella had beaten us to the kitchen and when we were all there we checked to see if there was food in the dishes. There was. But there were also several hundred ants swarming in it. When I looked back at Kayla, she wasn't all happy anymore, just dismayed and Stella had her concerned look. "¡Fucking hormigas!" I exclaimed. They can get on my plates, but not on my dogs' food. I drowned the ants, washed out the bowls and eliminated the trail with the purple death (Method lavender cleaner).

While the dogs were eating, I started to make coffee. I opened the latch where the water goes into the coffeemaker and a stream of ants overflowed from it. I guess the myth that ants hate coffee just got busted. They'd added insult to injury, first preventing my dogs from eating, then interfering with my coffee comsumption. It wasn't bad enough that they were already all over the place? That's all we need! Fucking hormigas on fucking caffeine!